Last month, I wrote about the uncomfortable but necessary process of becoming—how transformation often feels like writing your name with your non-dominant hand. This month, I want to expand on that journey with something foundational to the work we do at Legendary Legacies:
The shift from Do-Have-Be to Be-Do-Have.
Because here’s the truth—so much of our world teaches us to live backwards.
From an early age, we’re taught to do certain things—go to school, get good grades, choose the “right” career—so that we can have success, stability, or money… and only then will we be fulfilled, respected, or enough.
It’s a model that puts identity at the mercy of performance.
It tells us: What you do is who you are.
But at Legendary Legacies, we flip that script.
We teach our guys to live from being first.
Because who you are—your character, your mindset, your commitment—should determine what you do, not the other way around.
Be → Do → Have
- Be generous, and you will do generous things—and you will have generosity in your life.
- Be committed, and your actions will reflect it—and you will have the results that matter.
- Be a leader, and you’ll lead—at school, on the job, at home. And you will have influence that ripples.
This way of living isn’t limited by your job title, your degree, or your background. It’s not something society gives you permission to pursue. It’s something you cultivate, every day, from the inside out.
It’s a different rhythm. It requires presence. Intention. Identity.
And it’s unlimited in its reach.
We see it happen in real time:
- When a young man decides to be present for his child—not just show up when it’s convenient.
- When someone chooses to be accountable—even when the mistake wasn’t fully theirs.
- When one of our staff chooses to be patient—even when the chaos says otherwise.
This is the deeper work.
Because you don’t get to be something only after you achieve something.
You can choose who you’re being right now.
And when you live from that space, what you do becomes more powerful. And what you have becomes more meaningful.
At the end of the day, we are human beings, not human doings.
So this month, I challenge you—whoever you are, wherever you are—to check in with who you’re being.
Not just what you’re producing.
Not just what you’re chasing.
But who you are in the process.
Because when you lead from your being, you don’t just chase change—you become it.
Brother in the work,
– Ron
